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June 11, 2005

A Tribute To Real Men

male_process.gif Gentlemen, it's official: metrosexualism is out. In fact, I'm not convinced it was ever "in". Women still prefer red-blooded, all-American males:

A full 61 percent of women surveyed said they would rather see a man's hands rough and working hard than well-manicured, a slap in the face to the extreme-makeover, suave-guy crowd. Ninety-two percent of women said dependability is a desirable characteristic in an ideal mate. Only 16 percent chose "fashionable," and 62 percent chose "strong" as a desirable characteristic.
The Harris survey was commissioned by Dodge Trucks. The results, researchers say, are a testimony to the enduring power of sex roles on society.
"It just shows that there are some things that you can't change and that, while feminism for a long time has been pushing us towards androgyny with little girls with trucks and guys with dolls, women tend to have feministic traits and guys the opposite," says Carrie Lukas, director of policy with the Independent Women's Forum. "If anything, it shows what feminism hasn't been able to accomplish."

I could not agree more. While the Mother in us may cause our eyes to linger a moment on that pretty boy in the magazine ad, what really melts our hearts is the windblown, slightly sunburned guy next door: for all intents, an average-looking joe with real muscles and big shoulders who slays dragons (and isn't afraid to tackle big jobs or get his hands dirty).

One thing I do like about women is that for us, it's not all about looks: we prize intelligence too. Because smart guys make better lovers. And even if you don't happen to be the dragon-slaying type, that's OK. After all, it's not as though the 21st Century princess really needs a white knight anymore, even though we may still dream about him on occasion. Nowadays, most modern women are looking for a partner.

Nancy Hopkins notwithstanding, men and women still have profound biological and emotional differences. There's a reason spouses refer to each other as "my better half": men and women continue to complement each other in ways that enrich their lives. We were meant to fit together like pieces in a puzzle. When we recognize and honor those differences instead of denying them, we make an unbeatable team.

And what about those differences, anyway? Feminists will tell you they don't exist, or that they're the product of decades of patriarchal hegemonistic conditioning. Tell that to the tiny boy who owns nary a toy gun but manages to turn every vaguely tubular object he sees into an imaginary M-16, or the nine-month old baby girl who has already learned to pout, bat her eyelashes, and flirt with complete strangers in the grocery store. Where does this knowledge come from?

With apologies to Portia, who sent me the wonderful Male Thought Process graphic above, this was supposed to be a humorous post about the foibles of the Male Mind. But as I cannot hope to explain the incomprehensible, it ended up being a tribute to Men. For, as you all have no doubt noticed, I do very much like and admire our better halves. I cannot pretend to understand them, I know they most definitely do not understand us (although perhaps this Key To Female Psychology will help) but life would be unimaginable without them.

As far as I am concerned, it is a wonderful world in which men are men and women are women. Vive la difference.

Posted by Cassandra at June 11, 2005 09:29 AM

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Well, see, here is the deal the way I see it.

In this day and age if what a woman really wants is a woman.....she can have one. A real one, not a pretender.

And if a man really wants a man, he can have one of those too. With testicles and everything.

Posted by: Pile On [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 11:00 AM

Cassandra, the key to female psychology was hilarious, I actually had tears; a rare occurence!

The horse thing was just too good!

Posted by: Friend of USA [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 01:44 PM

Thanks. It is probably my all-time favorite.

Actually, believe it or not, a man gave it to me. A dear friend, and I've kept it all these years to remind myself of something very important I learned a long time ago that I sometimes forget. He gave it to me after we'd had a misunderstanding. I think it's the truest thing I've ever read about how men and women think. We keep expecting each other to change, and we never will :)

Posted by: Cassandra [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 02:02 PM

A "manly-man" poll commissioned by Dodge trucks.
Viagra for the Chicken Soup Soul.
/foul mood.

Posted by: spd rdr [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 06:16 PM

AMEN! While that, "knight in shining armor," thing might no longer be a requirement, I still want to feel confident that my studmuffin will be there to defend me if need be...I am!

Posted by: JannyMae [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 07:06 PM

We all like knights in shining armor Janny - they're the stuff dreams are made of. As long as they don't doesn't work themselves to death.

Too much work can make even Superman cranky :)

Posted by: Cassandra [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 08:52 PM

Sorry.

Posted by: spd rdr [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 09:45 PM

Good night, mr rdr :)

Posted by: Cassandra [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 09:57 PM

Well done, Cass and no apologies necessary. The Key to Female Psychology piece you included is as brilliant and as telling about women as the diagram is about men. FWIW, it was also a man who passed along the male-mapping diagram to me. Hmmmm, so that's their plan... enlighten us one "sister" at a time. Clever, lovable rascals.
Have at it, boys: Review question; Review topic.... Maybe:)

Posted by: Portia [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 12, 2005 07:19 AM

I really wish I could have done something clever with it Portia. I kept trying, but that was what came out. I don't really sit down and think most mornings. I just write about whatever I see or things that interest me. Maybe I'd make more sense if I did think a bit more, first.

As has been pointed out, I'm kind of a sap - I'll have to leave the witty stuff up to Pile.

Posted by: Cassandra [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 12, 2005 08:26 AM

Dang, I thought this post was about me and maybe Pile On and spd rdr.

Posted by: KJ [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 13, 2005 01:55 PM

How do you know it wasn't :)

Posted by: Bush Ate My Soul... [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 13, 2005 02:00 PM

Is this what you're talking about?

Or possibly this?!

Hee hee. Maybe "none of the above"...

Posted by: camojack [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 13, 2005 03:24 PM

Just to give credit where credit is due, the key to female psychology was written by Dave Barry. He is a Pulitzer-Prize winning humor columnist now retired. The excerpt appears in his book "Dave Barrys Guide to Guys". I have never laughed so hard before or since reading a book.

Posted by: mr_jenkns [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 14, 2005 01:34 PM

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